Vijay Garg
Old age is an important stage of human life just like childhood and adolescence. A fundamental difference between old age, youth and childhood is that childhood and adolescence come and go once in a lifetime. But once old age comes, it stays with us till our last breath. A person who observes the springs of his life for roughly 60 years is recognized as a member of Buddha Club. At this stage of life, society expects wisdom. Gives him the title of old man but it hurts when it seems from a distance that the old man is coming but when he opens his mouth he comes out old. The difference between elderly man and old man is that old man always speaks wisely. While the old people only talk. There are cracks in every relationship in modern culture. Parents often feel neglected in old age. Sadly, children do not shy away from leaving their parents in nursing homes. I have heartfelt sympathy and respect for such elders. Such social phenomena are not only reprehensible but extremely shameful. Therefore, it should be stopped as soon as possible, because we cannot create a healthy society by ignoring the elders. Why are these problems getting worse day by day? Although the new generation is engrossed in the principle of ‘eat and drink’, materialism is dominating the values. But still it cannot be said that children are always wrong. Often it is the fault of the parents. I am referring to the things that came to the fore mainly when I examined the reasons for this while walking in the society with my inquisitive critical and analytical tendencies.
Problems and causes: Most seniors are disciplined by their parents and have worked hard all their lives. So now they want to discipline their children. But highly educated children do a lot of work on the computer with the help of argument and brain. In the age of mechanization, the new generation does not tolerate talk while the old generation wants to impose their experience and knowledge on them. This is where the problem starts after the parents start considering their daughter-in-law as a regular servant after marriage. It is also foolish to expect heartfelt respect from him. In this case, there is a reaction to every action and then action upon reaction. In this vicious circle of reaction, action, relationships begin to suffer. When a son gets married, he should consider his daughter-in-law as his daughter, because she leaves her home and parents at the time of marriage and comes to your house. Now you are her parents. It is up to you what kind of input you are giving her. You will get the same kind of input, you will get the same kind of output. If you behave with good values, you will get respect in return. Can’t deny parents often complain of changes in their son’s behavior after marriage. The parents think that their son is naive and that Noah is cunning, so he has become a slave to his wife. However, this is not always the case. One thing parents should keep in mind is that your son is also someone’s husband. Nowadays, if educated boys help their wives in the work, they cannot be called ‘Slaves of Zorro’ because the wife does many of the tasks that are part of the husband’s share. The chariot of life can move forward. Many old people start seeing many shortcomings in the new bride and the eldest daughter-in-law who comes first, they forget who has been serving them till now. Sometimes a new member does not talk to the elders to settle in the family. But after a year when she starts showing her colour, it seems that now she has started talking more!
The condition of the offspring of the fathers who drink ‘Shakti Water’ in the evening to test their intellect is very pitiable because if the offspring strictly restrains their father then they will face embarrassment in the partner and if not stopped then the whole family has to face shame in the society. When the guest came to the house and asked about his condition, the elders would sometimes say with a long sigh, ‘It’s all right’. From the accent the guest understands everything and is ready to share the grief. When given the opportunity, the elder piles up his feelings in front of the guest like wheat coming out of a drum. Then this special guest preaches to all the relatives and shares the ‘sorrow’ of the elder and his children. In the next few days, the situation will improve and the home environment will return to normal, but the damage done to the image of the children in all the relatives cannot be compensated. Be proud of your children’s achievements, because what your children can do for you is not what relatives can do for you. Not a good thing.
Elders should also keep the following in mind to keep the home environment pleasant. Spend time with young children. Take them out for a walk. Keep your health in mind and give the children something to eat from time to time. In this way you will have a good time and the children will love you more.
A Sarpanch, who is a friend of mine not only respects his daughter-in-law’s family members when they come to his house but when he tells others about his daughter-in-law, he says, “I don’t know about other people’s houses but a lucky girl has come to our house.” As a result, his daughter-in-law respects him wholeheartedly. Empathy, respect, love, humility etc. are meanings with which one can easily win the heart of the child. May prove pain in the knees, hips, head, legs and arms are common problems in old age. Do not disrespect a pleasant morning by complaining of knee or shoulder pain as soon as you wake up in the morning but bring a sense of gratitude in your mind because you have been blessed with another beautiful day to live life. As is the law of nature, the raw fruit has to ripen and separate from the tree over time. In the same way the human body has to go through its stages of childhood, youth and old age and finally end up in the dust. This is the law of nature. When death is an inescapable truth then why be afraid of it? Yes! as far as physical problems are concerned, one should abstain from food and drink at this age. One should keep oneself busy with small tasks according to one’s physical ability. Light meals should be eaten. Low calorie intake reduces calorie intake. Therefore, spicy and fried foods should be avoided. If you are the head of a joint family then love all but if one son does more than others then be sure to praise him. Serving parents is not only a social responsibility but also a moral obligation of the children. Show with other people. Whether you are a laborer or a manager scolding your boss or boss, you quietly endure those who owe you only five or fifty thousand a month, but the parents who raised you up. You have to give up all capital and property worth lakhs or crores. Their words make you feel bad and your tongue starts moving like scissors. What else is this but a shameful car? It is the parents who teach the children who make hoarseness to speak. When the children who make hoarseness grow up and start arguing with their parents, the situation becomes unbearable. Remember that you are well-educated only because of your parents and as far as life tests are concerned, you will be behind them for the rest of your life. The bottom line is that the views of the elderly and children cannot be reconciled like two banks of a river. This difference of opinion between the new generation and the old generation has been there for centuries and will always be there, although this difference of opinion cannot be eliminated but it can be reduced. Therefore, elders need to take care of their health by controlling their eating and speaking. Children, on the other hand, should not think of themselves as smarter as or smarter than their parents. With the above in mind, the joy of heaven can only be realized on this earth.